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How can parents meet their children’s needs during a divorce?

On Behalf of | Jun 4, 2024 | Divorce |

Divorce can be difficult for children. For example, they may feel uncertain about their future.

School and extracurriculars can give children stability during and after a divorce, and parents can take several approaches to help their kids thrive.


Open communication with the school is important. Informing teachers, counselors and administrators about the divorce can help them understand any changes in children’s behavior or performance. Schools often have resources and support systems to assist children through difficult times.

Both parents should stay involved in academic decisions, attend parent-teacher conferences and monitor homework and grades.

A stable routine is also important. Consistency helps children feel secure. Both parents should agree on a schedule that includes time for schoolwork and related activities. A designated study space at each home can further support a child’s academic success.

Parents should encourage and support each other’s involvement in the child’s education. Shared responsibility can lighten the load and show children that both parents are committed to their success.

Extracurricular activities

Extracurricular activities play a major role in a child’s development, providing opportunities for socialization, skill-building and emotional growth. To ensure continuity, parents should maintain a collaborative approach. This means discussing and agreeing on the activities that the child will continue or start. Both parents should attend events and support the child’s participation, even if it requires logistical coordination.

Financial considerations are also important. Divorces often lead to changes in financial circumstances, but cutting back on extracurricular activities can negatively impact a child’s well-being.

Encouraging children to pursue their interests and passions is another key aspect. Parents should be attentive to their child’s preferences and support their choices, whether it is sports, arts or other hobbies. This encouragement helps children feel valued and understood.

By working together, parents in California can give support and stability to their children.